When it comes to love, kanya-kanyang trip lang yan!

Married or not you should read this...

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your partner’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy relationship!

If you share this, you just might save a relationship. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

Men 101: Geoff Eigenmann

Geoff Eigenmann

The Chubby hunk whom i adore so dearly.

what a bulge!!!

Men 101: Paolo Ballesteros

Paolo Ballesteros (born Paolo Elito M. Ballesteros IV on November 29, 1982

who will not be captivated by that smile, whether gay or not, he's still one hell of a cute guy!

At One with Nature

Nature trip at a very low cost...

with a very good friend and office mate, Jonnie

After an ample alcohol booze and without having enough sleep yet, we headed straight at the Ninoy Aquino Parks and Wildlife at Quezon Avenue for a change and to be at one with nature. It only happens rarely so why not take the opportunity. 8pesos isn't bad for a park entrance anyway.

Phyron's 1st Anniversary

It was our first anniversary but im here in Santiago City and Rhon is there in Cainta. I was supposed to get back before this day but things kinda got out of hand. It even feels so awkward coz Rhon and I had a little argument over text messaging, i guess we are just 2 people in love trying so hard to make this day memorable but distance blocked the way. Im sure we'll be able to make-up asap. Happy Anniversary Rhon...iloveyou so much!

Men 101: Atom Araullo

An online magazine featured 4 males from the ABS-CBN News and Current Affairs team in its 10 cutest newsmen in the Philippines list.

Topping the list of Spot.ph is TV Patrol reporter and Umagang Kay Ganda host Atom Araullo, who was dubbed as the "prettiest newsman on national TV" for his lean frame, mestizo features and boyish charm.

"Atom Araullo has a face that could convince young girls to be more responsible citizens -- as soon as they stop gushing over how cute he is," the website read.

Not only is he cute, he is also athletic and smart, Spot.ph noted. Araullo is an Applied Physics graduate of the University of the Philippines, where he is a well-known activist.

He's also a champion triathlete and trained in soccer, tennis, volleyball, taekwondo, platform diving, mountaineering and underwater diving.

"Indeed, it's a bonus that he's brainy. Because, really, all he has to do to melt our hearts is to go on air. This Atom is certainly the bomb!" Spot.ph said.

Landing on the third spot is Alex Santos, who is a regular on TV Patrol's weekend edition as well as morning show Umagang Kay Ganda. Despite his "salt-and-pepper" hair, Spot.ph said Santos retains his "boy-next-door" appeal.

"Watching him deliver the news on TV Patrol's weekend edition is a pleasant experience -- even if he's dishing out daunting facts...He makes the news more attractive," the website read.

Also on the list are ABS-CBN News Channel (ANC) hosts TJ Manotoc and Paolo Abrera, who ranked 7th and 8th, respectively.

Spot.ph said it "can't point a finger" on their appeal, but found both men sexy nonetheless.

Below is the full list of Spot.ph's 10 cutest newsmen in the Philippines:

1. Atom Araullo (ABS-CBN)

2. Martin Andanar (TV-5)

3. Alex Santos (ABS-CBN)

4. Ivan Mayrina (GMA-7)

5. Paolo Bediones (TV-5)

6. Mark Salazar (GMA-7)

7. TJ Manotoc (ABS-CBN)

8. Paolo Abrera (ABS-CBN)

9. Ferds Recio (GMA-7)

10. Aljo Bendijo (IBC-13, NBN-4 and RPN-9)

http://kapamilyaonesite.blogspot.com/2010/08/atom-araullo-is-rps-cutest-newsman.html

What BISEXUALITY really is...

Most people believe that bisexuality is an abnormal condition of dilemma, that it is a straight individual on his/her way to being a gay or the other way around. The reality is bisexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation by itself.

Possibly no other term in the sphere of human behavior is employed with such imprecision. Let’s first discuss what bisexuality doesn't imply. In traditional cultures of ancient Rome and Greece many males were bisexual as they were wedded to ladies and had teenage boys as lovers. This set-up was possibly the source of few of the great legendary and lyric verses of Hellenic periods.

First of all, never presume that the bisexual party is into courting you before you validate this with them. A few bisexuals don’t want a fully committed and monogamous union, some others either don’t wish to start a family yet (like a straight, lesbian and gay or relationship) or think they’ll never be satisfied sexually with just one person. Accordingly, you could go forward in your bisexual courting endeavor. Some others who are completely transparent with you can help you save a lot of inconvenience and hurt feelings, but don’t anticipate them to always do that, very often it is your responsibility.

Unlike homosexuality, bisexuality does not seem so unethical in the eyes of contemporary society. You can even find ancient ethnicities wherein bisexuality was normal, and it was not seen as an issue so long as they ultimately got married to someone from the opposite gender. Even though bisexuality does not seem so unethical in the eyes of many heterosexuals, the lesbian and gay community views it in a different way. The majority of gays and lesbians look at bisexuality as a phase of indecision. Oftentimes, they even view bisexuals as individuals who are in refusal of their homosexuality. Actually, there is a joke which goes “Bi now, gay later.” Even though a few bisexuals do become homosexual, this is not a common phenomenon.

One advantage of bisexuality is the fact that it enables a person to engage in completely different psychological and sexual roles. With a lady, the bisexual may be fatherly and aggressive, and with a different man, childlike and unaggressive. With a lady he may be open, pleasant, and confiding, a genuine associate in the complicated relationship, and with a guy he may be cold, mysterious, and animal-like. Or he may be sensitive and supporting with a young man and somewhat rough and aggressive with a more mature woman. Homosexuality may be restricted to lasting human relationships and heterosexuality for temporary enjoyment, or the other way around.

As bisexuality has become more tolerable both in traditional western countries as well as other civil ones like Australia, the United Kingdom and Ireland increasing number of people are admitting their sexual preferences. This implies that as a bisexual you’ve more alternatives, than ever before, in finding your ideal bisexual date. Presently there are even bisexual groups, and huge number of people on-line keen on bisexual activities.

Rainy days are here again. And to keep us protected from the heavy downpours, we bought these. One green, and one brown.

Hearts Day 2010

rhon surprised me with this bouquet of heart shaped baloons with a mini stuff toy in it

this heart shaped pillow from Blue Magic was a gift of Rhon from last Christmas

This Day of Hearts, we experienced warm hospitality from a very good friend and officemate Benny at his place in Tarlac City, it was also his birthday and his "coming-out-in-the-open" celebration.

with good friends Syrel, Benny, and Kate