Even when you're crazy about someone, it can often be
hard to know if he or she is "right" for you. How do you know you
won't feel differently in a year? Ten years? A lifetime? Deciding if you can
commit to someone is a deeply personal determination, and everyone has
different criteria. As in any verdict, you have to start by assessing the
evidence. With that in mind, YourTango has come up with 15 signs that you're
dating a soul mate. You don't have to check off all of these points to be sure
about someone-but if you can say yes to several, you've found someone very
special.
1. You tell him things you don't tell anyone else. We
don't mean blurting something out after you've had too much merlot, but the
desire to tell him intimate details about your life means you trust him-a major
component of successful long-term love. Related: 10 Signs Your Guy Is
Definitely In Love With You
2. You let her see you in moments of weakness. It's easy
to be happy with someone when you're feeling good about life. But what about
when you're not doing so well? Do you want to see her when you've been denied a
raise, or your cat died or you had a plain old bad day? She should be a comfort
during tough times, not a burden.
3. You respect him. You don't want to change the essence
of who he is. There may be stuff that irritates you in everyday life-he insists
on wearing his favorites, holey T-shirt, he eats sugar cereal for dinner, he
still watches Saturday morning cartoons-but you like him, plain and simple.
Related: 6 Ways To Be Extra-Supportive
4. You want him to meet your parents. You feel proud of
him and you want to show him off-as opposed to feeling like you have to make
excuses for him.
5. You can imagine a future together. You don't have to
practice writing your first name with his last name, but do you periodically
let your mind wander to picture a life together? Is it amazing?
6. You're not afraid to disagree with him. You know that
even if you fight, he'll listen to you and won't brush you off. He takes you
seriously, even when he thinks you're wrong. Related: 9 Things To Say During A
Fight
7. You want to work out your major differences. If you
do have crucial differences that will impact your future together-different
opinions about religion, money or something else-you want to work them out with
him, and you believe you can come to a conclusion that will satisfy both of
you.
8. You laugh together. Laughter is one of life's
simplest pleasures-you should definitely be able to crack each other up.
9. You're incredibly, utterly, surprisingly attracted to
her. Physical chemistry is an undeniably important ingredient in a healthy
relationship. And if she's not a classic beauty or your usual "type"?
Even more reason to think she's the one.
10. It's OK to be quiet around her. You don't feel like
you have to fill the space between you with chatter or other interaction.
Instead, you feel an easy comfort.
11. You feel like yourself around him. You don't feel
like you have to edit your thoughts; you're not self-conscious or anxious.
12. You need him the right amount. You long for him-but
not too much. Some neediness is good but too much breeds discontent.
13. You don't feel too jealous. You're comfortable with
him going out with his friends-even female friends. You let each other have
your own lives and hobbies. Related: Feeling Jealous? Could Be A Good Thing
14. You feel like she makes you a better person. She
makes you feel smart, funny, attractive, creative-like the best version of
yourself. You feel like she brings out and complements the best parts of you.
15. She just gets you. Sometimes it's that easy. You
feel like she understands some essential part of you that you can't explain or
articulate. It's a warm, comfortable feeling-and one you should have with the
person you marry.
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